just a few days later, why did you break again

caution hall 2022-09-29 16:41

many quit friends stay in the vicious circle of breaking the precepts every day, why? why can some great gods quit for hundreds of days? why do many of us break in just a few days? some people can't even control it for a day? because you only see yourself breaking the precepts, but you don’t see why.
01frequently asked questions
why can't i quit? why did i break the precept again today? what should i do if i can’t control myself?

i believe this is the most common question i have seen in the bar. to sum it up, i will just summarize it as a few simple words: why can’t i quit?
i'm optimistic about the answer i'll give you: because you're not qualified
if you are angry when you see this, i apologize. i will explain this sentence carefully later without any derogatory meaning. please continue to look back.
i believe everyone has had the experience of taking exams. if you haven’t studied hard since childhood and have been in high school, one day you suddenly realize: no! my grades are so bad! it has affected my life plan! i will get full marks in the next exam! i will get full marks every time in the future!
the result is conceivable. you will never pass the exam every time. why? because you've been so many yearsfallhow can there be a qualitative leap if you have too many classes to count? the leap is always time, not score.
those who understand will understand a little bit when they see this. in this metaphor, being determined to abstain from sex is just like you are determined to get full marks. the exam is a demon test, and the test of the inner demon tests your concentration. the courses you have been dragged down from childhood to adulthood are like the knowledge you have been dragged down on the road to abstaining from sex. no one can achieve success without learning or practicing. the same is true for abstaining from sex. you have always scored zero points, and you have been scored zero for many years. is it possible that you will get one hundred exams? is it possible that you will get full marks after you make two articles before the exam?
now do you understand why i say you are not qualified?

02solution
there are several types of friends who can ask such questions. let’s analyze it. before analyzing, let’s talk about the importance of analysis: knowing yourself and your enemy will never win. you must first understand your heart and understand the routines of the inner demons to be prepared, just like you need to know which aspects to take to review in the exam.
category 1: novice with quitting sex
this type of friends has been affected to varying degrees due to masturbation life. they began to believe in the correct concept: masturbation caused a lot of their own pain, so they began to seek solutions. after coming to the quit sex, friends like this will not study hard as a good medicine and study hard. after a few posts, i felt that it was fine and immediately started to work. come and go, you are defeated by the inner demons continuously, and anyone will be frustrated in your heart over time.

category 2: oil quit
this type of friend may have been diving in the bar for a long time, and come to check it out from time to time. i know that some diving bar friends have a history of two or three years. this type of friend is also people who experience pain. they will think of it from time to time to do health preservation and read the article. but their biggest characteristic is: they can't quit, they are always on the road to breaking the precepts and never get tired of it. even if they break the precepts, they will make a swearing right away, but they will still leave it behind in two days and start the road to search for the yellow.
the question they often ask is: everyone, what should i do! i can't quit! i can't stop the desire when it comes!
if you continue to use the school example, you know all theories and be confused about the questions. during the three kingdoms period, there was a man named ma ji. he once talked loudly in front of zhuge liang, which made mr. kong ming highly appreciate it. however, the first battle he handed over to ma ji was wiped out and the important pass in shu was lost. he understands the truth, but he just can't do it.
in front of jiyouzi, they know no matter what advanced sex-absorbing methods you tell him.
“stop thinking! ”
“i know, isn’t it just that desire comes to mind: when thoughts arise, it becomes awakened, and when awakened, it becomes nothing?”
they know, but how many people are really connected in actual combat?
it is exactly the old saying: genius is 1% talent +99%sweat
first, let’s ask a question: is it a good or a bad thing to break the precepts?
many friends may say: are you stupid? can it still be a good thing if you break the precept? it must be a bad thing!
ok, since this is what most people think, let me give you an example. when edison invented the light bulb, if he tried the first type of wick and gave up the experiment, he would not reflect on the reasons for the failure, and he would only blame: it was too difficult to invent the light bulb!

at the same time, he logged into baidu post bar and opened a certain bar and posted a post: oh my god! it's too difficult to invent something! i can't do it at all! if edison tried iron wire for the first time, he found that it was not possible, so he went to the post bar to complain and was comforted, and continued to muster up the courage to return to the laboratory and start the experiment two days later, but he used iron wire again, can he succeed? the answer is obvious, impossible.
this is what i watch my friends do every day. all of us are inventing something, and this thing is ourselves. what is our first reaction when we are defeated by the inner demon? it's very negative: oh my god! why did i break the precept again? i'm so failed!
as the old saying goes, failure is the mother of success. after we break the precepts, we should immediately reflect on what causes it? under what circumstances did it fail? in what kind of emotions did it fail? at this time, if we immediately record and analyze, and truly recognize the harm of adultery, repent immediately, and make a vow to correct this problem, will we become stronger?

if you carefully analyze the inner demon's routine, you will find that there are only a few tricks, big and small, and the routine is not deep. it's just that we never face it, but we face it negatively after every failure, resulting in no sense of learning at all.
let me ask, has anyone succeeded in quitting sex? no, we are all mortals, and it is normal to have desires, and how to self-regulate is the key. brother feixiang himself said: don’t care about breaking the precepts, but carefully analyze the reasons for breaking the precepts.
nowadays, there is a pathological pattern among quit friends:
breaking the rings---》posted---》get encouraged---》continue to blindfold your eyes, when nothing happens, continue to be broken by the same pattern in a few days--》posted to ask why you can't quit
we are not willing to face our failures, but we all overlooked one thing. it is failure that really makes me stronger. it is important to learn from the posts of seniors, but not the most important thing. the most important thing is to learn to analyze your own cases and know yourself (yourself) and your enemy (the demon of the heart) in order to be able to win every battle (the success of abstaining from sex).

if we just blindly strengthen our theoretical foundation, we will always be a new recruit in the face of actual combat, aren’t we?

i was troubled by sexual misconduct before. i was insomnia, i only went to bed every morning, i was anxious, depressed, and neurasthenia, i was very painful every day, inexplicably sad, and i was confused every day. i was wondering if this was the case in my life. later, i made up my mind to quit sex, stop evil and do good, and quit for a while, and the symptoms improved. let's quit, friends.

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