the first time i came into contact with quitting sex was because you suddenly said you wanted to break up with me

the first time i came across sex was when i was2015during the summer vacation of the year, you suddenly said you wanted to break up with me. under my question, you told me that you are in poor health and you should quit sex. there is no doubt that we had a big fight because of this, but in the end, we did not reach the point of breaking up. you recommended me to know about quitting sex, and hope i can learn more about your pain.

when i saw abstaining from sex, i felt that it was just a group of people who understood some basic theories of traditional chinese medicine that were spreading a kind of thing.“special”the argument of function; or a group of unhealthy people seek medical treatment in a hurry, and do not treat them well in the hospital, but seek unreliable online“enthusiastic service”；some people who don't understand common sense believe some so-called“reliable”after the remarks, i thought it was abnormal.

i did think so at that time. looking back now, i feel ashamed of my thoughts at that time. i have never experienced these things and felt such pain. then i cannot evaluate other people's lives at will.

i felt despised at that time, but at that time, probably because i liked you, i decided to cooperate with your job of abstinence. therefore, for a long time, i was in the state of how to cooperate with you to abstain from sex. i didn’t talk about more outspoken topics when chatting, and i couldn’t have intimate physical contact when meeting. i could only hold hands, but i couldn’t hug, kiss, etc.

every time two people have conflicts, you will mention that you should quit sex. for this reason, i was angry and got angry. in the middle of the night, i used long texts to accuse you of your behavior that made me feel dissatisfied. but i also thought that the road ahead is still long, so i took the initiative to apologize to you and admit my mistakes.

then, in the end, i gave you the impression that i am an unreasonable and willful person. so at that time, i even hated abstinence. i thought you had gone astray and had become an abnormal person because of abstinence.

later, you told me the secret that was hidden in your heart for nearly ten years, and you told me the pain you suffered over the years because of your own corruption. in the months when we knew you wanted to quit sex, we tried to find a balance between quitting sex and dating, but it was difficult.

first, i don’t understand you enough. i have thought that what you said is to quit porn is just to get rid of me; second, your will is not firm enough. every time you say you want to make up your mind to quit porn, it is ultimately because i once again influenced the process of quitting porn. it can be said that during this period, i have caused you a lot of trouble, and from your words and deeds, i also feel that you are bored by my obstacles to you.

fortunately, in the end you made up your mind and strengthened your determination to quit sex. you should adjust your body and mind as the most important thing at present, ending our awkward and awkward relationship of breaking up and getting back together for six months.

facts have proved that our separation is correct. at least, i found that after half a year of separation, you no longer have the gloom of the past. you are full of positive energy and a positive and positive atmosphere of love for life. moreover, when you see you again after three months of studying in chengdu, you become more friendly and confident, and you become better than before. this is the reward given to you by your persistence.

my life has been relatively smooth. i have only experienced two setbacks so far, one is the college entrance examination and the other is you. during the time when we broke up, we probably can no longer describe my mood as sadness. i kept reflecting on why we got to this point? i can't think of the answer, either.

we are still in touch, and you will share with me some articles you saw when learning traditional cultural knowledge, and advise me to learn to let go and take light on everything that has been gone. occasionally i will talk about your life in chengdu. you share with me your gains in the learning process, and your happiness makes me feel happy.

i am very happy that you are slowly changing and walking out of that fire pit. you are about to usher in your beautiful life. your changes will give you a better future. you will have a stable job and find a partner who will support you for the rest of your life. have a happy family, friends who can fight side by side with you, parents who live a long life, obedient and sensible children.……all this is because you deeply realize the need to abstain from sex and stick to it. this is not only my blessing to you, but also the reward you deserve as your persistence.

i know there are still many people who are wandering around, and i hope you can stick to it, for your ideals, for your family, for your tomorrow, for you, for her.

to borrow a sentence: don’t chase a horse, use the time to chase a horse to plant grass. when spring is warm and flowers bloom, there will be a group of horses for you to choose. don’t deliberately curry favor with someone, use the time when there is no friends for the time being to improve your abilities. when the time is ripe, there will be a group of friends with you; friends made with favors are only temporary, and friends attracted by personality are long-lasting. therefore, enriching yourself is more powerful than pleasing others!