a secret to keeping your family from quarrels!

i'll tell you a joke now. in fact, this is a true fact and it also teaches you how to survive this life in the world.

it is said that there are two neighbors in the world. the family on the left is noisy and has trouble every day. not only does the couple and children quarrel with each other, but sometimes children will quarrel with their parents. there are too many noises, and everyone is annoyed! the neighbor next door is a family with loving parents and filial children, and is a very happy family.

the noisy neighbor's house came to visit one day: "our family is so quarrel, why are your family so happy? not only did you not listen to you, they didn't even speak loudly. what's the secret? please teach us to change the troubles in our family."

“actually, it’s nothing! but if you have to say it, you’ll tell me, your family is all good people, and my family is all bad people!”

“what does this mean?"

“your parents, children and brothers are together, and you do the wrong things, and you do the right things, and you do the right things, and you do the right things. your family thinks that you are a good person, but if you do something wrong, you blame others for it. and in our family, if things are done wrong, i do it. you are not wrong, i am wrong, i am sorry! that's it. ”

a person is not afraid of doing something wrong. he is not a sage! who is not at fault? if you make a mistake, you must admit your mistake. the most fear of not admitting one’s mistakes is the most fearful thing, and also saying that others are wrong. in this way, not only brothers quarrel, but even mother, daughter, father and son will quarrel.

the family who is kind and gentle all say, "i am a bad person, and i do it if it is done wrong!" do you think this is a bad person? the one who is noisy often says, "i am a good person, and he does it if it is done wrong!" do you understand this philosophy?

for example, it seems that after half of a cup of tea, my brother put it on the side of the table. the little brother touched the cup roughly and rudely, and his hands were burned.

the brother scolded him, "why did you smash my cup?" the younger brother said, "why didn't you put the cup well?" the two started arguing.

if the brother saw that his younger brother had smashed the cup, he said, "did the water burn you? it's all my fault that he didn't put it in place." the brother also said, "it's all my carelessness that he smashed the cup. i'm sorry!" isn't this the world peaceful?

everything has its cause and effect, and there is also a present result: if you blame others for being bad, they will blame you; if you condemn yourself for doing something wrong, then people will tolerate you any mistakes. if everyone keeps this concept in dealing with people and things, then you will be peaceful all over the world.

make peace in your heart first, take everything back on yourself, and don’t just blame others. this is really knowledge!

everyone goes to the mountain to get treasures. "acknowledge mistakes" is the most precious treasure in dealing with the world. if you don't admit your mistakes while doing something wrong, that is the most annoying thing. remember, my teacher will give you this treasure today.